Yalom

"Are you satisfied with the world you have created? This is what you do to others, to others' opinions of you, and to your opinion of yourself--are you satisfied with your actions?"

"There is another source of anxiety in responsibility. If you become aware that you are responsible for your current life predicaments, you also veer close to appreciating the extent to which you have been responsible for the course of your past lives as well. For many this awareness incurs considerable pain: as one looks back on the wreckage of one's life, upon all one's unfulfilled potential, all of the possibilities never examined or taken, then one becomes flooded with guilt--not guilt in the traditional sense, which is related to what you have done to others, but guilt from an existential sense, which refers to what you have done to your own life."

There is no need to relay the troubles in your previous relationships to your next partner. There is no need to expound on all of your past lovers' misdeeds and why the relationship had to come to an end. Eventually you will revert to your own pathologies and your own maladaptive behaviors that had their own part in causing the relationship to end in the first place. That will be explanation enough in and of itself.

Breath

I still lose my breath and my heart still pounds sometimes with those certain triggers, and I can't explain how it can possibly still have that effect on me but it does. In any case I put the patch on and refocus on where I am now and move on because there isn't any direction left to go but forward.